It's the anniversary of my friends fathers death and I don't know what I can do to be supportive.?

I got her a card, some other people brought her some flowers and took her to lunch. She%26#039;s not being very nice to me right now but I figure it%26#039;s a stressful time so my first intuition is to stay away and give her space.





I%26#039;m afraid she thinks I%26#039;m not thinking of her because I didn%26#039;t bring flowers or take her to lunch like our other co-workers, but unfortunately I was asked to stay behind and cover the department so they could take her.





What would you do to show someone you%26#039;re being supportive?

It%26#039;s the anniversary of my friends fathers death and I don%26#039;t know what I can do to be supportive.?
She should not still be grieving the loss, she should have already moved on with her life.





Not to say you can not be supportive on this day, but the support a friend needs is everyday; not just a special occasion.





Showering her with flowers and a special lunch is enabling her to hold onto the hurt from the loss.





Why not as a friend help her move forward with her life and let the memories of her father be a part of it.





She will always remember him and feel a void from his absence, but making a big deal out of the anniversary of his death is not necessarily the right thing to do. It will enable her.
Reply:A card is always nice, a plant...or offer to take her to the gravesite if you can.
Reply:Tell her, %26quot;I know you are probably stressing right now but I%26#039;m here for you if you%26#039;d like me to visit his graveside with you or just hang out and talk.%26quot;





If she gives you the cold shoulder, then, fine, at least you have your answer but she might appreciate it, too. Let her know, perhaps in the card, that you had to cover the department and had to miss the lunch.
Reply:you got her a card,and covered the work so i wouldn%26#039;t worry to much.it would probably be best to explain when shes less stressfull.good luck ;O)
Reply:Tell her you%26#039;d like to take her out to lunch/ drinks/ go shopping, etc this weekend. Go do something fun.
Reply:They got to do something fun for her. That kinda sucks but one thing if you really want to, is ask if she would like someone to ride with her to his gravesite later on. I%26#039;m sure she is thinking about it.
Reply:It%26#039;s very hard for your friend for the moment and you should not make her feel you are away from her. The best thing is to meet her have a chat with her make her feel your presence and so that she can feel that you are showing interest and that your doing your best to show her that you care for her. Its very important and she badly need it trust me. All the best dear
Reply:Just go up to her, put your hand on her shoulder, say I remember too, and am sorry
Reply:somtiems just sitting ther, never saying a word feels like that was the best conversation ever anyone had.... in frnship its impo to just be ther...card, flowers doesnt subsituite for time U give to them....and when she is over it..let her talk and U listen....
Reply:What would you do to show someone you%26#039;re being supportive?





Exactly what you have already done. Let your friend know that you care and although you weren%26#039;t able to go out to lunch with her the other day, you still are thinking of her.



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