The 2nd Anniversary of my miscarriage is coming up. Any positive things I can do on that day?

I know some think I should forget it, but I am the type of person who tends to remember %26quot;important%26quot; dates like birthdays, anniversaries, and other ocasions. I did something last year (I planted flowers %26amp; made a donation) I want to do something different this year. No, I%26#039;m not looking for someone to feel %26#039;sorry%26#039; for me. I want to do something constructive! I am sure there are MANY other women who have gone thru this same thing! So, I thought someone out there could suggest something nice. I just don%26#039;t want that baby%26#039;s death to be for nothing and if I do something each year in his or her %26quot;honor%26#039; or *rememberance* then his or her short existence counted for something!


Thanks in advance for good suggestions! :-)

The 2nd Anniversary of my miscarriage is coming up. Any positive things I can do on that day?
Have a good time, go out, do something you enjoy!... Forget about it, and you won%26#039;t remember. Go out with friends, and don%26#039;t take about the event - you%26#039;ll be fine. Hope that helps, and Good Luck in the future.
Reply:say a little prayer to your baby who is with the angels.





but try to move on otherwise this %26#039;occasion%26#039; will be on your calendar every year
Reply:Go to a green house and buy flowers and pant them.. Do you own your house? Why not buy a small tree and plant it? Hope you have a great day.
Reply:If you%26#039;re still having a hard time with it you should at least name the baby that would have been, a friend of mine did that and had a tree in a local cemetery dedicated to him so she can go and visit :) it may not have lived long but it%26#039;s still something you%26#039;ll never really get over, so it%26#039;s best to mourn for it like you would anyone else..





I always try to suggest charity-related things, like sponsoring a starving child abroad or doing something really good for anyone who is in need.. it always makes you feel better, and might even shed a bit of positivity on such a tragic loss.. if you sponsor a child then at least there%26#039;s still one more out there that%26#039;s living a better life, even if it developed from such sad circumstances you can make it something positive :)
Reply:Hello you could go out and have a day for your self and if you have any more kids then i would celebrate with them as it is a day of remembrance of the one that you have lost and so i would go do something for your self and plant more flowers for the baby never can go wrong with that
Reply:I had a baby that was in the NICU for the first few months of his life and I was really sad to see how many babies were there that no one came to see and cuddle!





If you have come to terms with your loss, maybe it would be a comfort to you to volunteer your time at the local NICU, holding and feeding those babies that have no one to love them.





Just a thought!
Reply:Well, if you%26#039;re still with the guy who fathered that child, I think a night in alone, where ya%26#039;ll reflect on what happened and how your relationship has grown because of it is really kind, and really in remembrance of him. Other than that, I would say work on planting a tree or maybe volunteering at a women%26#039;s shelter or children%26#039;s hospital would be nice too.
Reply:I have never experienced a miscarriage so can not empathise on that level but I did have a thought. I did have a son who was born prematurely so I wondered if something constructive you could do to honour his/her short existance would be to make an annual donation to a ......what in the UK we call SCBU .....special care baby unit. That way you would be honouring the child you lost but, potentially, helping to care and support babies born prematurely.
Reply:Hi





I love the planting of the tree suggestion, but i was thinking what if you got a balloon and wrote a message on it for your little one...Go to somewhere special with your partner and release the balloon!





All of the answers to your question are great, good luck with your future!





Big hugs
Reply:Planting a tree is always a good idea. Maybe get some balloons and release them??





Dont Forget!! Never let anyone make you think you should move on and forget!! Remember, and live your life.
Reply:Hi again... decided to answer this again. Not sure why good ideas are being given the thumbs down. Immaturity runs rampant around Yahoo Answers with the thumb down fairies, LOL.





When the 1st anniversary of my loss arrived, I bought a balloon and had my 4 month old son at the time set it free. We did this the following year as well. I%26#039;ll always remember the very clear, starry skies those nights. It seemed to be perfect.


Also, my husband planted a tree in the backyard. It%26#039;s grown to be quite a tall tree with very special meaning.


Doing something special on that particular day is a beautiful thought.



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